I've been down in the dumps lately… Kim has lost her job… House has lost 40% of it's value… Health Care is messed up (better when we had it through Kim's job)… Iran has nukes… Cubs and Sox are out of the playoffs… Bears lost to Green Bay… And I don't work for Wall Street so I don't get one of those $53 Million dollar bonuses for losing other people's money!
On the other hand…. My business is up almost 100% My 401k (which was a 101K) is now back to a 301K… Kim was paid to be laid off… Bears beat the Super Bowl Champs… I shot an 82 for the tips last week… I landed 3 new clients last week… I have a lot to be thankful for!
A buddy of mine Scott gave me an attitude adjustment via Facebook when I posted I was having a painful day (it was a joke). He said that I did not know a bad day like his son serving in Afganistan… “guys who have slept in the dirt and did everything else in their same clothes for two weeks and have had to dodge bullets at the same time. Do you hear my little violin playing for ya? :-)”. I was humbled because he had a great point… I had nothing to beef about!
I am not a negative person. Not only am I accused of having the glass half full, but I constantly have it overflowing with optimism! So what? I was moved by a few things this week that helped tweak my perspective…
Outed at the Outings…
I was at a couple of golf outings this weekend. One was a benefit for a kids camp in Lake Geneva. It was at a beautiful course in Lake Geneva (Hawks View). It was very competitive and the guys I golfed with generally shoot par or better. The second was a small outing for a high school reunion. It was very casual with a few friends who pull out their clubs just a few times a year.
The first one, we were disappointed that we only scored 7 under par (The winners were from a college golf team and shot 15 under par). The second, we were thrilled that we scored even par (one birdie and one bogie).
I guess each was entered with different goals and the perceived results matched expectations (we thought we would win the first one and we just wanted to have fun at the second).
Lunch with George
Last week I had a lunch with George (read previous post for more info). I wanted to let George know face to face that I was no longer gonna be going to the same church and I wanted to encourage him to keep looking forward. George explained to me that he made over $60,000 in the past, but he has never been happier making $8.50 and hour being the best sanitary practitioner (dishwasher) he could be. He feels more happy and blessed than ever! I got it!
I guess it all boils down to your perspective. Some people wake up and say “Good Morning God!”… while others wake up saying “Good God, It's Morning!”.
They Were Who We Think They Were…
Peoples attitudes can define them for a long time. It reminds me of couple of years ago… On a plane trip back from Florida with a couple of neighbors who were golfers (and Bears fans), we were getting constant updates form the pilots and flight attendants that the Bears were loosing. When we got into the truck for the ride home, we were expecting the post-mortem. Instead we heard Devin Hester run back a punt and the Bears drive down the field for the final touchdown. That was the stuff that makes ups the next video clip…
I was just impressed how the Bears never gave up and ultimately won that game and went on to the Super Bowl that year! Positive attitude goes along way when you are feeling down!
What also moved me this week was a comparison I made between Michael and Tiger… There were these hidden tapes from Michael Jackson showing a hurt and sad individual juxtaposed by watching Tiger Woods work his magic at the FedEx Cup! I am a musician first and (based on my golf game and physique) an athlete second. I love golf and I will never be a 0 or 1 handicap but I do golf with people who are that good.
What I have noticed in golf and music is that when you play with better players.. you are better by osmosis! That means when I play with awesome musicians, I play and sing better… and when I play with guys who shoot in the 70's I play lower… When I play with guys that shoot in the 90's I play worse!
When you look at success of both incredibly talented people you can't help but be in awe of their performances. But there is a big difference in their attitude, demeanor and ultimately the legacy of thier lives. The tragic life of Michael Jackson and the successful life of Tiger Woods… you just have to go “Hmmm!”.
It just goes to show how that if you can surround yourself with positive people who can grow you through encouragement and teaching… you will grow and succeed. If you surround yourself with people who bring you down… you may succeed, but you have an anchor that is constantly trying to hold you back!
Speaking of talent. This kid has a future as a back up dancer for Beyonce… It just cheered me up also!